Yes, my oldest daughter texts, posts, and video chats. Yes, she is acutely aware of when it is “time” to freshen up the wardrobe with a handful of new pieces from the most current fashion trends. Yes, she often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the very best of her sharing list these days.
Indeed, a typical teenager in so many ways, Except underneath the North Face cover and the Ugg boots, in back of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent video display, and even beyond our intimate family discussions and shared dinners, there lies a good self-awareness and interior blossom set stage that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, a large number of with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit random to her now, expressing that while appreciative for the sentiment, she hoped the fact that her fellow campers seemed free to be themselves above the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating out. In short, everywhere.
She given the assurance me that she were “knocking” camp in any way and may also choose to return, but if perhaps she does go back to get another year or some, it would not be because the camp experience allows her to feel more traditional in any way. Her return might possibly be based on the conscious, sole (soul) choice to attend since she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” spot for a be herself fully on the earth.
I was truly mesmerised by her expression in deep wisdom that has used many of us divorces, health diseases, and endless searches because of different veins of the outer world to figure out. What my own dear girl was saying through the example of summer camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at meticulously.
Not necessarily what I experienced a long time back (alright twenty-six many back to be exact) with the tender age of fourteen. Recently my daughter and I were discussing no matter whether she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the junior high summer in a row.
With a palpable gratitude for all with the opportunities and lessons discovered from her previous camp experiences, she began to share her deeper thoughts on this kind of subject and beyond. Your lady shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, increase a connection to nature, and explore your core because of contemplation and solitude, the point of it all is to arrive to understand that inner connection is available anywhere, anytime, a great number importantly in the NOW.
We do not need to go somewhere special or do something out of the ordinary to live our own truth. This means that, freedom to be comfortable in the own skin should not be kept for places that we go to three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all solutions, always.
While some parents desire status, monetary reward and upward societal movement with regard to children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those exterior pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own self be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
The girl went on to give the example of seeing quite plainly that she doesn’t will need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look and feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she unquestionably views camp as a great thing, she knows that the girl with enough just as she is with or without camp to make sure you remind her of that inner knowing.
Yes, my daughter has her challenges, the woman’s snarky attitudes, her seconds of self-doubt. Yes, this lady can sometimes be mean to the woman’s siblings, sassy to her parents, generally ornery. Even though, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve not only her, but the world in particular, quite well.
Whereas we encouraged all of our kids to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her of the fact that decision to return is now 100 % up to her. As the discussion ensued, I had become almost mesmerized by her capacity to articulate the woman’s vantage point on the subject.